people say we learn from our mistakes. that we take something out of every failed relationship, and i say "failed" because you're no longer with that person. without reading too much into it, readers, you know i'm right. bottom line is, there's always a lesson to be learned.
people come and go in our lives and we're often left to pick up the pieces after their departure. when the person you lose is a significant other, such as a girlfriend or boyfriend in this case, some will go through a box of things they've collected during their relationship with that person and attempts to get rid of it as to not have any sign of their existence in their life. others will run and jump back into the dating world to replace that emptiness they have yet to feel. nonetheless, everyone takes on loss differently. i on the other hand question my potential...
i've done alot of thinking and here's what i came up with up...and it's probably a large amount of word vomit...
on several separate occasions these last few weeks this came about...
this idea of how things have gone so wrong and have destroyed any possibility for a salvageable end...
we beat ourselves up so much for every failure we encounter...we cringe at every defeat we face...we kick ourselves for every missed opportunity that passes us by...all because we think it takes us one step further away from achieving all the things we have ever wanted...all because we are convinced that it makes us less of a person...all because we believe that all those negative repercussions that we face further derail us from being all we can and desire to be...
potential, like many other things in life... is a rather ironic thing. when one identifies your potential... or even when you identify your own... whether it be for a specific activity or one's general "potential in life", it never has to do with one's skill set...it never really reflects one's progress...it merely is a statement; a photograph of all the things that could be. it's based on something innate...built upon the foundation of one's character...
even as children...we identify our own potential...our educators...our parents... ur coaches... tey all identify our potential and some choose to articulate it. even before we could read...before we could add...before we were capable of anything that would make us independent beings...our potential was already identified...
but *fingers crossed* not limited.
one's potential is a photograph, as i stated earlier...of all the things that could be. it is the product of one's self actualization...the destination at the end of the journey. it is a static thing.
with that in mind... if one's potential is never to change...because it epitomizes all variables...then what happens along the way to reaching that potential? Some are graced enough to be able to have smooth journeys...always moving forward.. never looking back...whilst others...slide downhill.
hmmm... potential.
if potential never moves...
if it remains stagnant...
then it truly is one of the most ironic things.
because...
that means...
one's potential actually increases with each failure...with each step back wards the distance increases...with each failure comes the possibility of even more victories...with each missed opportunity comes a greater array of possibilities to choose from.
it's a difficult thing to wrap one's head around...I guess...that regardless of all the things that happen in your life...that would lead you to believe you're less of a person...that your options are being depleted...that your goals are unattainable...that all those things don't. they do not make you less of a person. they do not limit your options. they do not make your goals impossible.
potential is not a line segment. it does not have a definite beginning and a definite ending. the actualization of one's potential does not shift with the progress one makes. potential is a ray. there is one base...and that is the photograph of all the things that could be. from there...it goes on to eternity
though one's path may lead them to inch closer to that base..or fall back away from it... here is no ending to that ray. you will always be on the path to reaching your own potential....
because potential is the only thing that increases when your feelings of self worth decrease.
im done ranting. this was horribly phrased.
